When you are talking to someone face-to-face, you have lots of visual clues to help you – your tone of voice, gestures, movements and eye contact. It may not be fair, but in the everyday world you are judged and influenced by all these criteria, and more –  even your occupation, status, height, dress and the way you look. And like it or not, it’s through the way you speak and look that you earn trust and confidence.

So, with none of these visual cues present in written communication, how do you earn trust and confidence when you write letters, reports or e-mail messages?

In written communication, especially e-mail, you have to find other ways to evaluate the person who is ‘speaking’ (writing). People do that by looking at ‘style’.  Style means paying attention to proper spelling and punctuation, correct sentence construction instead of non-sentences, and spelling out words in full instead of abbreviations only suitable for SMS.

Style also means:

  • being creative in what you write and how you write
  • making your communication look visually attractive by leaving a line space between each paragraph
  • using numbered points or bullets appropriately
  • using headings of a consistent style
  • considering the appropriate tone in your writing
  • structuring your messages logically.

I recently did a follow up workshop for a client who had run my business writing workshop two months earlier. I asked the participants what had changed since our workshop. They told me proudly:

  • We get straight to the point, using everyday language instead of beating about the bush with old-fashioned, useless phrases
  • Our messages are structured more logically so the reader can clearly see the action needed
  • We try to avoid the passive phrases that we used to use, like ‘Please be informed’, ‘Kindly be advised’, ‘Please find attached’, etc
  • We seem more approachable because our language is less formal and much more friendly, as though we are having a conversation.

Bingo! This is how to earn trust and confidence!

Please leave me a note and tell me what steps you are taking to earn trust and confidence and ultimately build better business relationships.